Friday, October 20, 2017

Unreasonable Expectations

Verse of the day: Genesis 30:1-2 Now when Rachel saw that she bore Jacob no children, Rachel envied her sister, and said to Jacob, “Give me children, or else I die!” 2 And Jacob’s anger was aroused against Rachel, and he said, “Am I in the place of God, who has withheld from you the fruit of the womb?”

Do we put others in the place of God in our lives? Do we put our spouse, children, friends, anyone/thing else on the throne of our lives where Jesus belongs? We do not often think about this, but anything that we rely on, or put unreasonable expectations on, is who/what we worship. When we expect others to fulfill something in our lives that only God can fulfill, we set ourselves up, and those we are looking to, for failure and misery. Rachel, in seeing that she had not yet been able to bore Jacob any children, became envious, and demanded of Jacob something that was beyond his control, and which was impossible for him to deliver. In relationships, if we, as born again believers, look to someone other than God for satisfaction, joy, peace, or happiness in general, we will be sadly disappointed, and will put ourselves on the road to destroying a relationship that would otherwise be fruitful, if we put our dependence where it should be. God has made it very clear that He is the One who is in control of all things, and there is much that is impossible with man, that is only possible with God (Luke 18:27). Salvation is impossible for man to attain; yet, with God we can have eternal life in Christ (John 14:6, Acts 4:12). Our ability to build a family by having children is only within God’s power to decide. However, we never think of that, and just take for granted that we have control over that. The Scripture is very clear, and we have many examples of how God is the One who opens and closes the womb; even when Rachel was finally able to conceive, it was the Lord who opened her womb (Genesis 30:22). Jacob’s reaction to Rachel was justifiable, as it was beyond him to be able to give her what she wanted. As a matter of fact, his answer to her was right on target, as he immediate acknowledged that this was something that only God could fulfill in their lives. May I caution each of us right now? Please be careful about how we communicate with each other when we become angry with each other. The verse tells us that Jacob became angry, but it does not say that he communicated it in a mean-spirited fashion. God tells us that we can be angry, but sin not (Ephesians 4:26). There are times when we must lovingly rebuke those in our lives that put unreasonable expectations on us that can only be fulfilled by God. When we speak this truth, we must do it in love (Ephesians 4:15). Sadly, there are too many Christian marriages that end in divorce because one or both of the spouses put expectations on the other that belong to the Lord. In any relationship, as Christians, we must find complete satisfaction, and fulfillment, in Jesus. Too often, we go into relationships thinking, and expecting, the other person to be our source of joy, and happiness; rather than seeking to be the one who brings something into the relationship. When we depend on another human being, we are depending on someone who is also a sinner, and who is also imperfect, and will eventually do something that will fall short of our expectations. As born again believers, we are ALL sinners saved by grace. Psalm 55:22 tells us to cast our burden upon the Lord, and He shall sustain us. Rachel, in her desperation and envy, looked to Jacob, when she should have turned to the Lord. Hannah, the mother of the Prophet Samuel, took a completely different approach when she desired children. She did not turn to her husband, but prayed that God would give her a child (1 Samuel 1:9-28). The end result for those these women was that Rachel had 2 children, but died giving birth to her second. Hannah, gave birth to Samuel, gave him to the Lord, and He blessed her with three sons and two daughters besides Samuel (1 Samuel 2:21). The bottom line for us is that we should never seek from man what only God can satisfy and fulfill in our lives. Psalm 118:8 tells us that it is better to trust in the Lord than to put confidence in man.

Today, God extends an invitation to you to accept His free gift of salvation (Rom 6:23). Will you accept it? Anyone who calls on Jesus, by faith, in repentance, confessing their sins, will receive eternal life. Do not put off calling on Him, and receive Him and His free gift of salvation today (Rom 10:13).

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